Have you understood the value of the words that come out of you?
Have you thought of paying attention to the words you say and what impact it has in your life?
Words play a huge role in how your life plays out. You may understand the importance of language when it comes to relationships with others, but today you need to focus on the impact words create in the relationship that you have with yourself.
The words and phrases that you use get registered in the brain as to what you think and want to do about a situation. Your words will trigger a chain reaction of events that you may truly want or which you really wanted to run away from. Your brain does not care about the contextual meaning or the grammatical form in which you have used those words. The brain only takes in the LITERAL meaning of the word.
There are particular phrases which you may be using that land you in trouble with yourself and you do not even realize it. These phrases restrict you, limit you, stop you from gaining maximum from a situation.
If you find yourself using any of the phrases given below, you are missing out on something good in your life.
· I KNOW
· I UNDERSTAND ALL THIS
· I GET IT
The most commonly used phrase I KNOW is such a negative phrase to say and hear as well. When you use this phrase, you are working from the point of already knowing everything there is to, you are working from your ego which does not allow you to really take in the piece of information somebody is giving you. When you use this phrase, the brain registers that the information coming in is not important or useful. It restricts you from gaining something new and only lets you think of what you are aware of.
The phrases I UNDERSTAND or I UNDERSTAND ALL THIS also work along the same lines. When you begin using these phrases, you become a SELECTIVE LISTENER who only chooses to take in what you want to hear. You miss out on what is actually being said as you are registering the words only that you believe in. The phrase "I GET IT works along the same lines.
These 3 phrases are equivalent to mental suicide. It blocks you to the point that you become stubborn and rigid. Imagine, the other side now. You keep listening to someone saying these phrases to you. What are you going to think of that person? "Oh! she/he is a know-it-all." or "There is no point saying anything, he/she is so arrogant." Would you after a while say anything to a person who keeps saying this to you? I assume not. I will also take the liberty of assuming that you would not want people to have such opinions of you. Then, your next question should ideally be, "What must I say instead of these phrases?"
Let's find alternatives to these damaging phrases. I am going to suggest a few, and you need to come up with more alternatives for yourself.
· I will think about it
· Yes, it makes sense. I am able to relate.
· Interesting, I agree and I see it from this point of view...(elaborate)
Using these phrases will definitely allow you to have an open mind, listen and have good conversations with people. Before you use these options, spend 1 week observing how often you use these phrases or any other phrase which blocks you from what is coming to you. Once you have understood how many opportunities to grow and elevate as a person have gone; it will be easier to step into a new phase of using these phrases and many more.